Damage Control

     I'm writing this blog just to send some encouraging words to some of my friends.  You cannot accept anything less than what you aren't willing to do for yourself. If you are wanting to be happy, positive, intriguing then you have to be around someone who will give you just that.  If you are willing to be second place to someone, then more power to you.
     On the other hand, if you have people in your life that are not a positive influence and they cause more damage than replenishing your mind with positivity then sometimes you have to keep them at bay.
You can't let anyone control your mind and heart, when deep feelings are involved they can blind you. They can blind you into thinking well this is okay, he/she didn't do anything that bad to make me feel less.  What will you accept and not accept? When is it not accessible to take up for yourself.  No one can hear you unless you speak loud and clear.
      If you trying to live your life remember, you always have people that are looking up to you and when they come with those questions for advice; what advice will you have prepared to tell them.  No one is perfect, but when is it going to be your time; when is it going to be your time to shine? If you are about his/her well being besides yours, it's time to turn that around.
It doesn't matter what type of relationship your in friendship, marriage, long term relationship, or your a mistress of some sort. You have to demand respect from someone if you want it.  And never let someone trick your mind into thinking your less than, they can say something to you but you can't say anything to them.  Your feelings do matter, you haven't done anything wrong accept for love, so don't let the other person control something that they can't have ***your mind.  If someone has to drag you down with them and making you feel bad, or treating you badly because your not tending to their needs. All these games on putting the blame on you can be over can end if you want it to be I can understant it can be hard, but when you start noticing that your more forgiving of a situation between you all then we might have a problem.  You never want to feel like your seconds, if you mean a lot to that person, then your needs will be met automatically...no waiting no asking.
      You are a wonderful person inside and out, you have to start believing in that to be able to move forward. Don't let anyone come in at the weakest point in your life, let someone come in at the strongest point in your life so you won't take any bullshit! Enough is Enough!